Patti Schwarztrauber, executive director of Artemis, a domestic violence center, urged those in abusive relationships to get help. Artemis' hotline, (937) 222-7233, is opened 24 hours a day.
A little love tap is one thing, but Daily Beast recently uncovered much more in a new article about a practice that in my humble opinion can be summed up by the term “domestic violence” or the made up compound word ‘kinkyviolence.’
'Spanking for Jesus' or 'Christian Domestic Discipline, as practitioners call it,' is the subject of a video Australian documentary maker John Safran produced in 2010.
In the video (a clip is in the report above. Click here to watch the entire video on Youtube), a spanking for Jesus husband says he consensually paddles his wife when she breaks the rules.
“There is sort of an order here on Earth where it is God, Christ, man, woman. The domestic discipline is how you maintain that order,” the spanker explains. “It is a tool. It is pain, but it is an act of mercy.” His face is blurried out, but you can tell he is serious.
Safran practices spanking on actress Kristen Condon in the video.
Here is a definition of a Christian domestic discipline marriage from the website CDD:
“A Domestic Discipline (DD) marriage is one in which one partner is given authority over the other, and has the means to back up that authority, usually by spanking. The application and practise of DD in each marriage is as unique as the individuals who make up that marriage. There is no “One Ring of Power” in the Domestic Discipline world, to which all DD couples must bow; no singular path to “true DD enlightenment.” What works well for one DD couple may not be a good fit for another marriage. Therefore, you may see many different suggestions espoused on this site and elsewhere.
“A Christian Domestic Discipline (CDD) marriage is simply a traditional, male-led, Christian marriage which utilises aspects of Domestic Discipline. It is set up according to Biblical standards.”
The whole thing sounded like domestic violence to Patti Schwarztrauber, executive director of Artemis, a domestic violence center based in Dayton.
She said she was troubled that so many have made light of the underground practice.
She thought back to seeing Desi Arnaz spank Lucille Ball on TV.
“That was (thought to be) funny and OK, but it is not funny or OK,” she said.
Some have commented on blogs that the behavior practiced by a subculture of Christians seem to be a consensual sexual act — a fetish — but Schwarztrauber doubts that submissive women in these relationships do not have a ‘safe word’ to make the spanking stop and can be hit whenever their husband gets the urge.
"(In a Christian Domestic Discipline marriage) every aspect of my life is going to be controlled by a man who can choose to punish me in anyway he chooses to,"Schwarztrauber said. "It is crazy."
Schwarztrauber said the act has an obvious negative impact on children who witness the violence. Some mothers apologize to their children for having to be disciplined.
As the Daily Beast story points out, a wife can get spanked for feeling - "meh."
Here’s what one blogger wrote:
‘Bucko got up and positioned the pillows of our bed against the headboard.
“Come here, you are getting a spanking.”
I did, and he did. When he stopped at first I was still feeling a little meh. I did something crazy then. I told Bucko I still felt meh. You heard right. I didn’t pout and poke the bear. I talked. Try to contain your shock people, stranger things have happened. Well back we went for a bit more. This time there were tears. (He’s getting really good at spanking me to the point of tears. Not entirely sure how I feel about that). Well that seemed to work and Bucko held me for a long while, before ordering politely requesting that I go finish my blog. So being the wonderful wife I am, I did.’
My word. Sick stuff huh?
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